At Work, Can it Ever be Assertiveness?

I took a quiz the other day that told me how bitchy I was.  I think the quiz itself was flawed, since half of the questions asked for what you ‘bitch’ about and then the other half asked you about your personality.  I thought the whole definition of ‘bitchy’ was personality-based, and then, my all-time favourite Australian expression of ‘whinging’ (complaining), was more along the lines of bitching about something.

tumblr_n10n3wfcrl1st5lhmo1_1280Anyway, I digress.  I took a quiz the other day that told me I was 60% bitchy – they called my type of person a Balanced Bitch.

I am OK with this.  As someone whom people rarely find bitchy (at least no one tells me to my face) I like to think I’m assertive but also self-aware, making sure I don’t go out of my way to make other people’s lives a living hell but not get walked all over like a dishcloth.  (Although, I must say, the amount of bitchiness that goes on in my head when, let’s say, a car almost runs me over, is something Regina George would approve of.)

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What is Your Best Before Date?

best beforeYesterday, at the grocery store, I picked up a small container of sour cream for our chicken tacos we were making and glanced at the best before date on it: August 19.  It didn’t take more than a second for me to chuckle at it.  I turn 30 on August 20, so to see a best before date on the day before my age shifts to the BIG 3-0 was more than a little fitting.

I often notice dates on or around my birthday.  Not that I’m birthday obsessed (I’m happiest with a delicious dinner, wine and a few friends to celebrate with) but the date is obviously important to me.  As a kid I’d think, when I saw a carton of milk that expires later in August, ‘Hey, I’ll be 13 when this expires’, knowing that I’d have to cross a milestone to get to when the milk goes sour.  Yes, a little odd that I’ve always projected this notion onto dairy products.

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Check These Four Things off your List Before You Email Anyone

tumblr_myebwtELvb1st5lhmo1_1280I work with some people who get emails constantly.  They get so many emails that they need to spend their after-hours (their pre-9am and post-5pm) doing real work.  I can’t imagine how hard it would be to focus if that was me!

There are a lot out of articles there that suggest people should only respond to emails at only significant times in the day, and turn it off otherwise etc. but I think the problem needs to be nipped in the bud at the source: the sender.

So, before you send that email, think about a few things to maximize your time and to help minimize others’ efforts.

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Orange is the NEW Black – Fire Warden Style 101

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I unintentionally wore my new ‘miami beach orange’ dress to work today, forgetting I was a fire warden and that my hat would match my outfit. Needless to say, I’d never caught the 100s of building co-workers noticing my brightness moreso than today. Luckily, there was no fire. And, even more lucky, everyone was kind enough to inform me of my choice and ask if it was deliberate. Let’s just say it was.



Ademoiselle and Cottage-By-The-Lake Fashion

melhdrThis is me, up at the cottage we rent near Montreal. I was able to have a last minute escape there for a few days to enjoy the work-free, sunny days of summer.

I’m not afraid to admit that’s a pillow case on my head.  It helped block the intense sun while paddle boating on the lake.  Paradise.  Fashion necessities are the mother of invention.

The shirt is from Cotton On in Australia and it’s 4 years old.  It never ceases to amaze how it hides what I hate and accentuates what I love.

The pose is something I picked up from my sister, so I had to throw that in.